School children know boring…or do they?
Telegraph | News | Marriage is just too boring, say children
Children do not want to get married because they think it will lead to a life of boredom, according to a survey conducted by the BBC.
Boring? Let’s read what John Taylor Gatto has to say about boring:
I taught for thirty years in some of the worst schools in Manhattan, and in some of the best, and during that time I became an expert in boredom. Boredom was everywhere in my world, and if you asked the kids, as I often did, why they felt so bored, they always gave the same answers: They said the work was stupid, that it made no sense, that they already knew it. They said they wanted to be doing something real, not just sitting around. They said teachers didn’t seem to know much about their subjects and clearly weren’t interested in learning more. And the kids were right: their teachers were every bit as bored as they were.
Boredom is the common condition of schoolteachers, and anyone who has spent time in a teachers’ lounge can vouch for the low energy, the whining, the dispirited attitudes, to be found there. When asked why they feel bored, the teachers tend to blame the kids, as you might expect. Who wouldn’t get bored teaching students who are rude and interested only in grades? If even that. Of course, teachers are themselves products of the same twelve-year compulsory school programs that so thoroughly bore their students, and as school personnel they are trapped inside structures even more rigid than those imposed upon the children. Who, then, is to blame?
We all are. My grandfather taught me that. One afternoon when I was seven I complained to him of boredom, and he batted me hard on the head. He told me that I was never to use that term in his presence again, that if I was bored it was my fault and no one else’s. The obligation to amuse and instruct myself was entirely my own, and people who didn’t know that were childish people, to be avoided if possible. Certainty not to be trusted. That episode cured me of boredom forever, and here and there over the years I was able to pass on the lesson to some remarkable student. For the most part, however, I found it futile to challenge the official notion that boredom and childishness were the natural state of affairs in the classroom.
Can boredom in the classroom translate into boredom in the home? Can children be taught that “the obligation to amuse and instruct” themselves is their own responsibility and that those who fail to do so are “childish people, to be avoided if possible”?
It seems to me that many homes are glorified boarding houses where children are merely tenants. All of their primary activities are outside the home (school, sports, friends) and all they do at home is homework, eating and sleeping with a bit of media, interactive or not. Naturally, such an existence will seem second rate. It is a good thing that children grow up and think better of parenthood as they mature.
Read the whole Gatto article. Boredom is a symptom of a severe societal malady. Until reading the Telegraph article I had never considered that relationships could be construed as boring, leave alone marriage. It saddened me that a full 27% of 2,000 7- to 11-year-olds thought of marriage as a “‘pointless’ union.” It’s downright discouraging to hear a 38-year-old mother of three answer the question, “What is the best thing about being married?”
The best thing about being married is having someone who puts the rubbish out on Wednesday night. It’s the only thing I can think of … it’s very handy and if you weren’t married you’d have to do it yourself.
How are the children supposed to have a bright view of marriage if parent’s views are as inglorious as that?